tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post1233200698146783296..comments2023-12-11T20:18:37.225-06:00Comments on Shattering the Silence: What's the Problem Here?Roger Mannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-46355595539210487602015-02-25T06:01:08.793-06:002015-02-25T06:01:08.793-06:00Thanks. Because there was pleasure and because I f...Thanks. Because there was pleasure and because I felt accepted for a few minutes as the events happened, I felt like I was the one who had started it all--for a long, long, long time. A compassionate counselor helped me understand that I did not start it, and that my body responded as it was designed to respond to those kinds of touches. And yes, although I understand now I was not the instigator, there are times the old "am I to blame" feelings come back. We have keep reminding ourselves.Josephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-69807856480503564932015-02-25T05:37:58.376-06:002015-02-25T05:37:58.376-06:00This is so helpful, it has haunted me for years th...This is so helpful, it has haunted me for years that it felt physically good during the events and that I sought it out at times with my abuser. It was all due to physical arousal and being accepted and cared about by an older male, it was what made me feel like I belonged.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12365798863276064785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-29970643910663912252015-02-24T12:58:14.677-06:002015-02-24T12:58:14.677-06:00Thank you for this reminder.
I've been in my...Thank you for this reminder. <br /><br />I've been in my recovery journey for a good while already. But as recently as last night a friend asked me "Why are you believing you deserve to be punished?"<br /><br />One of the first things that leaped into my mind was "I deserve punishment because I liked what was done to me." Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06377229341309366053noreply@blogger.com