tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post158439248190238793..comments2023-12-11T20:18:37.225-06:00Comments on Shattering the Silence: Questions and Answers (Part 3 of 7)Roger Mannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-56771484596259375552011-02-26T07:51:36.670-06:002011-02-26T07:51:36.670-06:00Anyone who has been abused or cares deeply for som...Anyone who has been abused or cares deeply for some one who was molested may post. I want this forum to be open.<br /><br />I hadn't planned to write about the mother's role. but I think that's important.<br /><br /> Anyone want to comment? <br /><br />This can refer to the passive, choosing-not-to-see mother or the mother who abuses. <br /><br />My mother was my first perpetrator and there are a number of males out there like me. <br /><br />(If you want to post to be personally/privately, go to cec.murp@comcast.net.Cecil Murpheynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-55918773886923235742011-02-26T07:37:59.207-06:002011-02-26T07:37:59.207-06:00I hope you don't mind my commenting because a ...I hope you don't mind my commenting because a lot of what you write touches my heart because of the abuse I received. I hadn't thought about a distant father opening up a child to seeking love and being taken advantage of, for my father was my first perpetrator. What tore me up in this post, was the last line - the perpetrator has gone after the innocent boy and destroys his childhood. That is exactly what incest and sexual abuse does. I remember my third grade teacher writing on my report card that I acted like a fifty-two year old adult. I was abused early on, seriously from the age of seven. I never once knew what normal was, and had to learn.<br /><br />There is hope though, and one thing that has been emerging recently is that God was there in ways I never even imagined. For example, I lived in a fantasy world with a mother and father who loved me - God told me recently he was those people in my fantasy, providing comfort to me.<br /><br />Are you going to cover the mother's role? My mother fully knew of my abuse, and did nothing. That made me even more isolated.<br /><br />Your site is a breath of fresh air for me. I am grateful to you for your courage to share so openly.<br /><br />HeatherHeather Marstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17442467779057850945noreply@blogger.com