tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post3186696810483034870..comments2023-12-11T20:18:37.225-06:00Comments on Shattering the Silence: Lies I BelievedRoger Mannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-13757683545165361202014-11-05T13:57:21.887-06:002014-11-05T13:57:21.887-06:00Roger and Joseph, thank you for transparency. You ...Roger and Joseph, thank you for transparency. You make it easier for other survivors to speak up. <br /><br />Thank you.Cec Murpheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06151061579255432985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-69378950987687354422014-11-05T13:06:43.840-06:002014-11-05T13:06:43.840-06:00I lived for 60 years believing in the back of my m...I lived for 60 years believing in the back of my mind that I had caused the molestation to happen. What a chain-breaking moment when I could look at myself and say, "I didn't start it; a man will twisted and evil lust started it." True, I made bad choices of casual sex after that, but I was not the one who went looking for an adult male to have sex with me. However, as an unloved adolescent boy I responded, and didn't realize for a long, long time that what happened was wrong. By that time, patterns were set.<br />Josephnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-358968713544418592014-11-05T00:24:42.561-06:002014-11-05T00:24:42.561-06:00I can relate to this a lot. I did not understand w...I can relate to this a lot. I did not understand what happened to me was abuse or wrong. It was my father, what could be wrong with that? We just were having some really close bonding of sorts. Also it must be ok to do this with other boys if they want, even other men. <br /><br />I knew men were supposed to have sex with women to make babies and have families but this stuff that was happening to me was just some fooling around harmless fun that only boys can do. <br /><br />I was in my forties before I began to read about the effects of this stuff and realized I had all those effects in my life and that is why it was so crazy. Indeed at times I thought I was crazy. <br /><br />Having been in recovery for over ten years has helped me gain some healthy perspective on what went wrong and how to put it right. God did not intend for this kind of behavior and God had good reason to say don't do it. Not because God didn't like it, but because it damages us and those around us in terrible ways.Roger Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.com