tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post8709203088849860805..comments2023-12-11T20:18:37.225-06:00Comments on Shattering the Silence: "I Need to Be Healed."Roger Mannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-78038630376050889832015-03-21T08:51:37.073-05:002015-03-21T08:51:37.073-05:00Roger, you are always so honest and transparent. A...Roger, you are always so honest and transparent. Again, thank you.Cec Murpheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06151061579255432985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-6751980505780321172015-03-20T23:38:38.105-05:002015-03-20T23:38:38.105-05:00What does it mean to be healed? Does it mean I don...What does it mean to be healed? Does it mean I don't jump at every shadow? Does it mean I don't fly off the handle when frustrated? Does it mean I am able to enjoy the intimacy with my wife without the ghost of abuse past haunting our bedroom? <br /><br />Does it mean the body memories stop making my skin crawl and certain parts sting and burn for no reason? What does it mean exactly to be healed?<br /><br />A lot of my own healing has come from knowledge of what really happened to me, what the effects are and how they can impact me on a day to day basis. Knowing all that I can anticipate and guard against the tendency to react rather than respond to situations. For me, knowledge has been a key to dealing with all of the above whether they diminish or go away entirely.<br /><br />Perhaps I shall have to struggle with the flashbacks, memories, PTSD, and intimacy issues for the rest of my life here and if that is so, so be it. It does help me understand and find compassion and support for others of my kind who also struggle. Knowledge helps me shed the label of victim and move to survivor. Eventually I will move to thriving but that may still take some work. <br /><br />As you say, I am worth it. A message I can carry to others and bring hope. Hope maketh not ashamed!!Roger Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.com