Shattering the Silence

The most courageous step for survivors is to speak about our abuse openly. That was the single most healing step for me . Until I opened up ...

“But it felt good and I liked it,” Gerald Ray [1] said. “Of course it did. Whenever you stimulate your penis, it’s pleasurable,” I said. “S...

One of my big struggles in my healing journey has been to feel my emotions, especially the intense ones. That’s the curse and the blessing ...

“Be kind to yourself,” my best friend, David Morgan, said. “Show Cec a little sympathy.” His words sounded odd, and I hardly knew how to res...

Culture and training gives us a skewed picture of what it's like to be a man—a real man. Many of us pull back, convinced that we don...

I remember the first time I heard the term  embrace the pain . How could that ever be good? It hurts. It makes us feel weak. That's pr...

Some of us struggle more with memories of the past than others do. They come back as quick spurts of something in the past and they're g...