tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post8461302753095205652..comments2023-12-11T20:18:37.225-06:00Comments on Shattering the Silence: Roger Mannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-90468227116531502782020-06-07T01:01:32.555-05:002020-06-07T01:01:32.555-05:00Thank you Zale for that. It's been difficult t...Thank you Zale for that. It's been difficult to separate all the emotions and paradoxes this has imposed on me. As my father he was important to my survival and he taught me much that was still good. As my perp,he was untouchable because he was my father. As my Pastor and a "Man of God" I was to honor him not matter what because of his position regardless of what he asked me to do. His contradictions were inexplicable to me as a child, a teen, and as even an adult. I couldn't reconcile any of it so for most of my life, it just never happened. <br /><br />Well, as you know, that doesn't fly forever. Thank God I was able to get help and am healing continually over the rest of my life. I'll probably working and sorting all this out for the rest of my life. Roger Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591791342062150604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1362373399405910593.post-54625687426333517532020-06-02T08:40:54.907-05:002020-06-02T08:40:54.907-05:00Hi Roger:
Somewhere along the way, I never caught...Hi Roger:<br /><br />Somewhere along the way, I never caught the fact that your perpetrating dad, was also a pastor. That packs a "double whammy". Your Father Wound was a reflection on men, your father figure and your Heavenly Father. I am so sorry.<br /><br />I was perpetrated on by a pastor, but he was not my father. It may be remotely similar to your situation, but does not come close.<br /><br />I applaud your healing. I applaud that you can still discuss faith in light of those facts. The enemy did NOT prevail. I know there's still healing to come, but I applaud your journey to this point.<br /><br />You mentioned being "out of control" in college. That may be true, but we also can't beat ourselves up for the people life tried to make us be. Abuse brings some predictable outcomes, which what you described is one of them. So, while you were making choices, you were also predisposed to those negative behaviors. Does that excuse them? No. Does that help us understand that we are not bad people because we did what our parents and family "programmed" us to do? Yes.<br /><br />ZaleZale Dowlenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12505112246498936924noreply@blogger.com