Friday, September 16, 2011

Being a Safe Person (by Gary Roe)

I asked Gary Roe to write several posts. He also shares his story in my book When a Man You Love Was Abused.

I’ve had so much fear in my life. I don't want to trigger fear in anyone else. Instead, I want them to feel safe and peaceful when they are with me. I want to show that I'm trustworthy. Protective. Caring.

Being a safe person is a gift I can give others. By being safe, I stand alongside them and against the great evil of sexual abuse.

To be that person, I must continue to heal. Healing is a long, long journey full of hills, valleys, potholes, and speed bumps. It’s excruciatingly difficult at times, but it’s worth the effort and the pain.

1 comment:

Heather Marsten said...

I have been so blessed by your recent posts, but this one touched my heart. My pastor often says, "Hurt people hurt people."

I also want to be considered a safe person and the only way I can do that is to make sure I don't have triggers that can get pushed, so I need to heal. The stronger I become through healing, the safer I will be.

God bless you.

Heather