Shaped By Our Experiences

"I can make sexual abuse an idol," Gary Roe wrote to me. "I can elevate what happened to me into my god and empower it with responsibility for everything that goes wrong. I can let it define me and control everything I do. I can allow abuse to sink me, entrap me, and crush me.

We're shaped by our experiences. What happened to me affects every relationship I have—even if I'm not aware.

* Does my background define me and keep me defined?

* Does the past determine my future?

* Is healing possible? 

I know there are positive answers for me; I know because I'm healing. 

I've come a long way. More healing has to be done. Lots of it. I'm not quite healed. Sometimes I think I'm not anywhere near healed.