Do you remember having to raise your hand in school to get permission to go to the restroom or sharpen your pencil? As children, we knew the rule and lived by it the best we could. As we’ve grown we’ve forgotten about it. We take a lot of our freedoms for granted because we rarely have to ask permission from anyone.
But what if there’s a part of me that is still raising its hand, asking for permission to heal?
But what if there’s a part of me that is still raising its hand, asking for permission to heal?
As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I’ve come to face a part of me that is still sitting in that small wooden desk. He’s squirming a bit and has his little hand in the air waiting for me to recognize him again.
He’s the wounded child, the neglected boy who got lost in the family system. Tears streak his face and fear is in his eyes. He wants badly to gain my permission to heal from the wounds inflicted upon him by older boys and men.
He needs my help. Will I see him? Will I notice the strain in his arm from waving his hand for so long?
Some dismiss the idea of an “inner child.” I know that I'm not separated from the little boy I was when the abuse occurred. I’m the same person.
The little boy was me. That little boy is me.
Sometimes I have to go back and sit with him to help him know I see him, that I recognize he's hurt, and give him permission to heal a little more.
He’s the wounded child, the neglected boy who got lost in the family system. Tears streak his face and fear is in his eyes. He wants badly to gain my permission to heal from the wounds inflicted upon him by older boys and men.
He needs my help. Will I see him? Will I notice the strain in his arm from waving his hand for so long?
Some dismiss the idea of an “inner child.” I know that I'm not separated from the little boy I was when the abuse occurred. I’m the same person.
The little boy was me. That little boy is me.
Sometimes I have to go back and sit with him to help him know I see him, that I recognize he's hurt, and give him permission to heal a little more.
1 comment:
Powerful post. Thank you for sharing this. I used to have a love/hate relationship with my inner child. I resented her needs and at the same time needed to be taking care of her. Thank goodness we have an awesome God who helped me nurture that inner child.
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