(an encore post by Cecil Murphey)
The brief email read: When we finally face the abuse and disclose the secret to others, we've made a giant step toward healing.
He wrote only one sentence, but it's true. Here's how I think about it. I need to tell someone else who listens, who believes me, and who also understands.
Here's something I started to say years ago (and still believe): "I know of myself only what I say about myself." That is, when I speak the words about myself and get an understanding nod from someone else, I "own" my words.