Many of the emails that come to my personal box ask why in some form. Here's my answer: I don't know. I'm not sure anyone can fully give the reasons behind the queries about pain, injustice, healing, and anguish.
Instead of asking for the reason something happens, it's more healthful to focus on the deeper, perhaps-unasked question.
Here's my major reason for suggesting this: When we ask why, the natural answer is logical and analytical. We may gain information, but we rarely find help because our issues come from multi-layered pain and we want satisfying, emotional responses.
When you want to ask why,
ask yourself, "What do I really want?"