This question comes up regularly, and I could give many answers, but here's one: I forgive because I want to move forward in my healing. That probably sounds like a selfish answer, and it is—but it's also a necessary one.
If I don't forgive, I hold on to my pain and won't let go. As long as I refuse to forgive, I will feel anger, rage, or some kind of negative emotion toward another. Holding on to those feelings holds me back.
I want to make it clear: This is not a demand to forgive. We forgive when we're ready. We are the only ones who can decide on the right time.
I want to forgive my perpetrators
because I want to be free from my painful past.