Carla wrote that life is difficult for her because her boyfriend keeps telling her the things that are wrong with her.
Because this blog revolves around male sexual abuse, I assume he is a survivor.
When someone persists in telling me what's wrong with me, something is wrong with the other person. Think of his criticism of you as his inability to accept those qualities in himself. So he throws the problem on you as if you are defective.
I'd also ask why he remains your boyfriend? What kind of relationship is it in which he continues to hammer your unacceptable qualities into your head?