"I want one person—just one person—I can trust and rely on." I wonder how many times I've heard men say those words. It's not a bad desire; it's just not enough.
We need others, but no relationship provides everything. A number of men refer to their wives as their best friend. That bothers me because it usually means that their spouses must carry all their emotional baggage, and they become everything the man requires.
No one—not a single person—fulfills every shortfall. It's a terrible burden to lay on someone and to expect them to be that perfect individual—the flawless, infallible one.
A healthier way is to build several relationships. Seek for those worthy-of-trust individuals. Be to them what you want them to offer you.
For example, I have one friend who is a marvelous listener. He rarely offers advice, but it's obvious to me that he's there for me.
Another friend lovingly tells me the things I don't want to know about myself. That is, when I open up to him, he often intuits meaning behind my words and actions. When he points them out, I'm able to see different parts of myself—what I call my shadow or backside. I'm grateful for him.
A third friend is easy to talk to and it's just as easy for me to listen to what he says.
All three are important—and there are a few others—because each provides something I need.
But not one of them provides everything.