Many of us were groomed by our perpetrators by their showing interest in us and paying attention to us. They lured us by making us feel loved.
They deceived us.
Those who sexually assaulted us didn't see us with eyes of love and compassion. We weren't truly individuals to them. Despite their use of words like "You're special" or "I love you," they lied. We were targets for them to satisfy their lust or addiction.
If we hadn't been available, they would have found some other vulnerable child. That last statement is crucial to our healing.
We were there. We were needy and they took advantage of us. We weren't special. In fact, the statistic I've read in several places is that pedophiles abuse up to 200 kids in their lifetime.
We were there. We were available.
Now we have to learn to forgive those who targeted us and stole our innocence.