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Healing Is Tough but Worth It

(By Gary Roe)

Healing is tough but worth it.

My daughter recently broke both her arms, one of them very badly. The pain was terrible and she nearly passed out several times. After the doctors assessed the damage, they did surgery. The recovery process was slow, difficult, and painful.

Can you imagine what would’ve happened if we had refused surgery and chosen to ignore that fact that she had two broken arms? Ridiculous, right?

Yet we often minimize the pain and damage of what I call our soul injuries. The abuse perpetrated on us was far worse than two broken arms. The damage was internal and extensive. In order to heal, we’re going to need some soul surgery. The recovery and healing process will be hard, lengthy, and at times painful.

But as we stay with it and remain committed to healing, we’ll find ourselves slowly improving. We’ll be less burdened and live with greater freedom and purpose. And one day we’ll look back and say, “Yes, it was so worth it.”

So stay with it, my friend. Make your healing a priority. It’ll be worth it.

My soul injuries need my attention,
so I choose to make healing a priority.

(This post was adapted from Not Quite Healed, written by Cecil Murphey and Gary Roe.)

3 comments:

Mark Cooper said...

The phrase "count the cost" comes to mind as I read this.

I've paid far more than I anticipated by entering the recovery process. I've paid countless hours of time reading, writing, talking, fighting through memories. There have been strained relationships with family and friends who have not understood or realized what I've been working through. I've paid a lot of money through the years of counseling and even hospitalization for depression.

I've paid a lot for healing.

But the cost of NOT pursuing healing would have been even higher.

I'm worth the cost. So are you.

Cecil Murphey said...

Mark, thank you. You've said it s well.
Sad to say,however, too many men are willing to pay the greater clost.

Roger Mann said...

I have met people in their seventies who still cry when they talk of the abuse of their bodies. I have noted on several occasions that when I broke my arm, was hit by the car on my bike, though badly injured, I healed. I no longer give either a second thought. It was to my body but not my soul. The soul is eternal. It is who we are, what we are, how we see ourselves. When that part of us is damaged, it can be life altering and long lasting. I know I feel it every day.

To heal from soul damage requires a lot of work. As I said it is life altering and so is the work of repair but as you point out, it is worth it. To go through life carrying the baggage of survival is even more work and involves more damage. There is life after abuse and it can be good.

Thanks