I finally figured out ways to ward off that kind of thinking. First, I reminded myself of something my friend Malcolm George said to me in one of my dark moments: “When you tell yourself that you ought to be farther down the road, you’re probably healed more than you know.”
Second, I remind myself of who I used to be. I reflect on the insights and breakthroughs I’ve experienced over the years.
Third, I wrote a simple prayer when I was a pastor. For years, people reminded me of it and told me how much they valued it. Finally, in my dark moments, I started reciting my own prayer:
God, show me the truth about myself
no matter how wonderful it may be.